11th Issue of Newsletter

Free Your Voice from Speaking Anxiety

Happy fearless Sunday!

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Keep reading if you want to know what limiting beliefs are causing you the fear of speaking in public.

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GETTING IN TOUCH WITH THE SOURCE

What is a Belief?

A belief is your interpretation of reality that you hold on to as THE TRUTH. But it may or may not be the truth.

Beliefs run every aspect of our lives.

For instance, beliefs make us ...

• Eat healthily or unhealthily,
• Frown or smile back at strangers at a grocery store,
• Spend extravagantly or be frugal,
• Speak fearlessly or get worried sick when asked to speak.

This is how everything we do is tied back to our belief system:

4 Ways in Which a Belief is Formed

1. Experiences or observing others' experiences
2. Media, stories, and rumors
3. Being told what is true
4. Traumatic events (one event is enough to form a belief)

For the first 3 ways, it may take a series of events or repetitions of similar events to form a belief.

However, only ONE traumatic event is enough to form a belief.

Common Limiting Beliefs Behind Public Speaking Anxiety

A limiting belief is what limits us to reach our fullest potential.

Here's a list of common limiting beliefs behind the fear of public speaking:

1. Public speaking is inherently scary
2. I'm not a born natural public speaker
3. What I have to say is unimportant
4. Mistakes and failures are bad
5. Appearing nervous on stage is bad
6. Showing vulnerability is bad
7. I'm not smart enough to be a public speaker
8. I'm not good enough
9. What makes me good enough is doing things perfectly
10. I'm going to be judged negatively
11. What makes me good enough is having others think well of me
12. People will judge based on my accent
13. I'm not important

Ways to Getting in Touch with the Source

There are 3 ways to get in touch with the beliefs causing you the fear of speaking in public:

1 - Does it seem true

1 + 1 = 2.

Sky is blue.

I'm an alien.

I'm not good enough.

Does it seem true?

Go to a quiet place and say these sentences out loud and ask yourself does it seem true?

If your brain says it's true, then you have that belief.

No brainer!

Sometimes, it's that easy to identify the core limiting belief behind your anxiety by simply saying it aloud and asking yourself if it's true.

BUT ...

if your rational brain says, "No, it doesn't make sense"

or "I don't believe in this statement" then we move to the next method.

2 - Notice feelings and emotions

If your brain says NO to this belief statement "I'm not good enough",

... then we proceed with noticing the feelings and emotions.

Say the belief out loud once again:

"I'm not good enough".

Notice what feelings and emotions it conjures up?

Does it feel heavy?

Painful?

Depressing?

Or neutral?

One time, I was working with a client, and I asked them to say this belief aloud and observe their feelings and emotions.

They found it extremely painful and difficult to say the belief statement out loud.

"It felt as if there's a heavy burden on their chest", they elaborated.

If this is the case with you then it indicates the presence of that belief in you.

Even though you may not agree with the belief statement intellectually, your emotions will tell you the truth.

3 - A sensation in the body

Irrespective of your response in the previous 2 methods, we proceed with this method.

The purpose here is to pinpoint the part of the body that goes through a different sensation when you say the belief aloud.

Notice if you felt any sensation in your body when you said the belief "I'm not good enough" out loud?

Where exactly did you feel it?

It could be anywhere in your body. Maybe it's in your ...

Head,

Stomach,

Chest, etc.

If you felt a sensation, ...

then this is another indication that even though you may not agree to the belief statement intellectually, you have the belief on the gut level.

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Your Task ...

Pick any belief from the list of "common limiting beliefs behind public speaking anxiety", discussed above,

and ...

apply these 3 ways to find out if the belief is present.

Do this and there you have it, folks!

You have identified the sources of your core limiting beliefs behind your fear of public speaking and social anxiety.

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NEED HELP with any of the steps?

Set up a free call by clicking here and let's discuss how I can help you.

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BRINGING IT HOME

TL; DR

Geeting in touch with the source behind your public speaking and social anxiety is the FIRST step.

Once we know the source then we can work to get rid of it.

Feel free to reply to this email if you have questions or feedback on this newsletter.

I personally reply to EVERY email.

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THREE MORE WAYS I CAN HELP YOU

1 - 1:1 coaching - I'm now offering 1:1 coaching (limited openings) to help you overcome the crippling fear of public speaking (in under 2 months) by eliminating limiting beliefs and gain the self-confidence you always wanted.

2 - Free live webinar - I will host a Live FREE Webinar on Friday (@12:00 PM MT, 11:00 AM PST, 01:00 PM CST, 02:00 PM EST) in which you will learn three secrets to overcoming your public speaking anxiety.​

3 - Social media - I regularly share practical tips and insights on public speaking and communication skills. If you are active on Youtube, Instagram, or ​Threads, let's connect.

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Best,

Waqas, Founder & Speaking Coach

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