I don’t know about you, Reader..
But whenever I meet someone new in a business or personal context...
And we start a conversation...
I usually try to find out more about their Values and Beliefs.
Why... you asked?
Because that usually reveals valuable information about their character...
And it helps me figure out whether there’s a "Chemistry" between us (not the romantic type 😅) for any potential future collaboration or not.
So—since you’re now part of newsletter community—I wanted to take a moment to share the underlying philosophy behind my coaching...
And why it’s a powerful paradigm that can help you finally beat the social and speaking anxieties...
Speak with self-confidence that comes from within...
And perhaps most importantly: NEVER dread public speaking ever again for the rest of your life.
I call this philosophy “Mastering Your Inner Game”.
You see...
Following that public humiliation in Sep 2019 (check this video and story post if you haven't watched or read my story yet)...
when I decided to go all in to solve my own crippling fears and anxieties around public speaking...
I didn't have a clear roadmap or any solid plan about the "HOW".
I was confused, scared, and all alone.
To tell you the truth...
I was waiting for a MIRACLE to strike.
I read books not once but TWICE, bought $97 digital courses, and attended $797 day-long boot camps (2 of them), hoping and praying that I would find the SECRETS to overcome my crippling fear of public speaking...
BUT
Only to find out that NOTHING was working!
Ironically, I was feeling even more scared, anxious, and exhausted.
Everyone was talking about:
- Saying positive affirmations that I didn't believe in and those NEVER felt true from within—I always felt like an "imposter".
- perfecting messaging, delivery, and body language
- Avoiding filler words and use hand gestures to appear as a polished speaker
- Maintaining eye contact for greater impact
- Using voice infection, tonality, and pacing to sound like a professional speaker
- etc. etc.
But all this was a solution to a different problem.
Every time I went on stage, I felt exposed, judged, and a fake because...
My problem was internal: deeply rooted in my feelings, thoughts, and core beliefs
So, nothing really seemed to work!
But I kept exploring and finally decided to join a Toastmasters club.
I showed up in club meetings week after week, month after month, and in November 2022 I was finally able to speak in front of an audience of 40+.
And it took me 2 YEARS to do so!
BUT to tell you the truth, I was still worried...
→ What if my anxieties come back?
→ What if my mind goes blank?
→ What if the audience judges me negatively?
It was not until I worked with my coaches and experts who helped me identify the root causes which was...
My mindset and limiting beliefs about myself and public speaking.
Once we crushed them in intensive sessions, I was a "FREE" person.
Along the way...
I made countless mistakes but learned from them, so you don't have to repeat the same mistakes and solve any mysteries to overcome your anxieties.
Because I have already solved this mystery for you.
I learned there are 2 MODELS to overcome this crippling fear:
FIRST model: Practice, practice, practice (Everyone would tell you this)
SECOND Model: Eliminating Limiting Beliefs that trigger your speaking anxiety (Not so common)
I've tired both and lemme tell you this.. both work!
BUT here's the catch...
The FIRST model takes years of practicing and exposure... and yet there's no guarantee because:
- It's based on FAKE IT till you make it philosophy and...
- might even lead you to developing or fueling "Imposter Syndrome"
- It involves saying positive affirmation you don't believe in but hope and pray it'll work one day
- Requires LOTS of courage and willpower to expose yourself to your demons, month after month and in some cases year after year... (Heck, I treaded this very path for a long time)
- It's like trying to solve a mystery and..
- throwing darts in the dark while waiting for a miracle to happen. (How do I know, you asked? I've tried it all!)
Does any of this ring a bell?
The SECOND model takes weeks (8 weeks for most of my clients) ... with long-lasting repeatable results guaranteed because:
- It's based on digging deeper to uncover your biggest challenges and anxiety root causes... rather than staying on the surface
- It's NOT another feel-good mumbo jumbo but...
- It's backed by SOLID science
- It rids you of the anxiety from its ROOT
- It makes you not only a confident speaker but also a confident person in ANY social setting—1-1's with bosses or speaking to a crowd of any size
- This model COMBINES mindset coaching with PROVEN strategies and tools for any public speaking situations.
- It comes with a clear roadmap and expectations.
Now Reader...
If you are firm believer of the first model which is based on just mindless practicing and exposure, I'm not your cup of tea...
SORRY...
Can't help you!
BUT if you resonate with the SECOND model...
and want to speak in any social setting without worrying about the fear of judgement, freezing up, or your mind going blank...
Then you’re gonna love my NEXT email (Part-II) that reveals my coaching philosophy in much more detail.
Keep an eye out for that.
-Waqas
ALSO, here are a few ways I can help you...
1 - Work with me One-on-One
If you’d like to work with me directly to fast track your journey to build SPEAKING CONFIDENCE and maintain your authority and reputation when you speak... just reply to this email... put “One-on-One” in the subject line... and tell me a little about your ongoing speaking situation and challenges and we'll discuss to see if what I do can actually help you.
2 - Get over common misconceptions about Public Speaking
I've put together this BONUS guide to get you started with your journey to speaking confidently without feeling overwhelmed with nerves. CLICK HERE to access it!